What to do if marriage is tiring

Marriage is a normal relationship that most men and women have to go through, but it should be based on the premise that both parties are willing, otherwise marriage will lead to unhappiness for both parties. However, there is a situation where even if both men and women are very willing when they first get married, as the marriage lasts longer, there will be more and more friction between the two sides, which also causes both parties to feel that the marriage is very tiring. So what should you do when you find yourself in a very tiring situation in your marriage?

1. What kind of marriage is becoming more and more tiring:

1. The so-called "women hold up the sky"

Really, there are many such women in reality, who have none of the temperament and style that women of the new era should have, but are still willing to give silently. Such women get married, have children, and are busy with work. Their husbands play mahjong outside every day and know nothing about them, but the women still have no regrets. Sometimes I really can't understand why? It's the 21st century and women are still like this. Don't you think it's stupid?

She is obviously a married woman, but she makes herself look like a widow, with fatigue and sorrow always on her face. Not to mention what her spiritual world is like, just the survival aspect is enough to make her tired of life and death.

2. Compromise and give in

After getting married, she still has no status at home, is ignored by her useless husband, and is even regarded as an enemy by her mother-in-law, but she has no consciousness or ability to resist. She may also marry a bastard. The more she accommodates him, the more shameless he becomes. This kind of compromise is like eating shit instead of white rice.

Why should we continue to live like this? Four words: for the children. But is it right to do so for the sake of the children? Not necessarily. If a child grows up in an environment without love, it will probably be more hurt.

3. The economic burden is too heavy

Indeed, every woman wants to live a better life. If your financial situation is not good, you will be hostile to life. You will feel powerless and painful. The house you live in is small, your furniture is cheap, your clothes are all unknown brands, and you never use perfume.

You never even want to compare with others, but you are just poor, so poor that you are about to lose the basic dignity and security of life. This is the struggle. You can have an economic burden, but it cannot be too heavy, especially for women. You cannot bear the economic burden. If you marry a lazy man, divorce him immediately without wasting a second.

4. Excessive Kindness

Being kind is definitely a good thing, but people cannot be too kind, and people cannot be full of saintly hearts all the time. After all, you are just a human being. It is enough to be kind in your duty. This is also the moral tradition of us Chinese. Things that should not be kind are definitely not kind. You know, being too kind is stupid. How can you be kind to a jackal?

From friends to relatives, there will always be people who will take advantage of your kindness and make you keep giving without giving you anything in return. You will feel unwilling but helpless.

5. Indecisiveness, unable to put down

Many times, life seems boring, but you are unwilling to let go and lack the spirit to give up. You always think about the years of relationship with him and always have fantasies about him and this family, but never have fantasies about yourself and are not responsible for your future life.

You have also thought about divorce and ending a bad marriage, but you are indecisive and don't have the courage to take the step to leave. You always have to tell others how helpless you are. I think such a woman deserves it.

6. Ritual leads to fatigue

"After sleeping in the same bed for more than 20 years, it is inevitable to feel some aesthetic fatigue." This is a classic line from the movie "Cell Phone". It was also from here that I learned that marriage can also be tiring. Marriage ties two people in love together and makes them adjust to each other, but eventually the love fades and everything becomes dull and boring. On some special days, middle-aged couples learn to commemorate and reminisce in their own special ways, allowing each other to feel the warmth in each other's hands. Just a moment of romance every day can keep love going in ordinary life.

7. No independent space

Marriage is like sand in your hand. The tighter you hold it, the faster the sand will leak out. If a woman controls too much, a man will feel suffocated. Husband and wife should put themselves in each other's shoes and give each other some space to carefully cherish their love. If a woman is magnanimous, the man will be extremely grateful, and ultimately happiness is in her own hands. The secret to a successful marriage is to be able to open your heart to each other. Even if you don't agree with each other's point of view, at least you should understand what the other person is thinking. Marriage cannot be maintained by passion alone. After the passionate period, you have to learn to adapt to each other and to married life, so as to reduce the fatigue of marriage.

8. A marriage that is too dull

After the passion, all that remains is a dull life. Many couples want a romantic life every day, but cannot adapt to an ordinary life. This is also an important reason why the relationship between couples fades, especially girls. Girls watch more Korean dramas and usually imagine themselves as the heroines of Korean dramas. In real life, I hope my boyfriend is like the male protagonist in Korean dramas and can give me a romantic life.

What to do if you feel tired of marriage?

1. Trust is important

There should be more trust between husband and wife, and they should not doubt each other all the time. A marriage full of doubt will make both people tired.

2. My wife is not a babysitter

As a husband, you should also understand your wife’s hard work. Don't treat your wife as a nanny. Your wife is your lover, not your nanny.

3. It’s not one person’s fault

Look for the reasons within yourself; it cannot be one person's fault. As a wife, don’t always complain about your husband, but be nice to him.

4. Don’t be indifferent after a quarrel

No matter how much two people quarrel, they should never treat each other coldly. Indifference is very terrible and will ruin the relationship between two people.

5. Be understanding of the other person

In fact, the biggest problem between couples is probably the lack of understanding. Try to understand the other person from their perspective!

6. Have an emotional foundation

Couples need to master skills when communicating. It doesn't mean that if two people have a good relationship, they can talk about anything.