What if we have no common topics?

In life, whether it is a relationship or a marriage, if there is no common topic to talk about, then generally speaking, separation is not far away. In a family, the most troublesome thing about life between husband and wife is that they have no common language. In fact, the main reason for this phenomenon may be that they have been married for too long and all the passion has been consumed by the trivialities of life. However, it is also possible that the two people are completely different types of people.

The main factor for couples not having sex life is probably that they have no common language. "Lack of common language" is the most troublesome problem in marriage. Many couples have no sex life because of this, and family breakdown is caused by the lack of common topics between couples.

There are two main reasons why there is no topic:

1. Not the same kind of people.

As the saying goes: Birds of a feather flock together. Different types of people have many differences when they are friends, let alone when they are husband and wife? The solution is: either both parties tolerate their own personalities and actively discuss the problem; or one party makes a great sacrifice (find an impartial friend to objectively evaluate whose principles are correct more often, and the other party makes sacrifices <compromise and obey>. Of course, this also requires reaching a consensus through mutual discussion); or break up.

2. You’ve been married for too long.

The initial strangeness, novelty, and passionate emotions have gradually been worn away and consumed by the complexities of life. (Of course, there are also feelings that go through vicissitudes of life and become more courageous after setbacks).

What to do when there is nothing to talk about between husband and wife

Distance creates beauty

It is said that distance creates beauty. Give it a try and see if beauty will be created with distance. If you still miss the days you spent together when you leave, then cherish your future life. No matter what he (she) says, you will be willing to work hard to do it. People are never perfect. Give each other some distance and time to see if they can live better and more peacefully without each other.

Get clear on your inner self

If being apart makes both of you feel relaxed, then choose to break up. But please, we can still be friends after breaking up and take care of each other. After all, it takes a hundred years to be able to ride the same boat, and a thousand years to be able to sleep on the same pillow. Since we have been husband and wife and have supported each other for a while, that is fate. It took thousands of years of cultivation to achieve this fate.

Learn to be considerate of others

If you love each other, try to stand in the other person's shoes, listen to each other's voice, think about each other's thoughts and reasons, be more considerate of each other, and even if the other person is wrong, treat him/her with tolerance and don't be too fussy. If you really cannot communicate and there are major differences in common language, then you should seriously consider whether your marriage can last.

No Argument

Don't expect to impose your ideas on others; arguing will only hurt feelings. When there is a disagreement, either compromise or weigh the pros and cons and adopt the opinion of whoever is more beneficial to both parties, the children and the entire family.

Avoid the important issues

Be considerate in life to alleviate spiritual deficiencies.

Learn to enrich yourself

Enrich your inner world, improve your ability and wisdom to distinguish right from wrong, reduce your dependence on your lover, and alleviate the distress of having no confidant.