What to do if a couple is not getting along?

In the life between husband and wife, quarrels are inevitable, but if they often quarrel over trivial matters, it will easily cause emotional damage between the couple over time, and it will be difficult for them to live in harmony. Generally speaking, a disharmonious family will have a lot of bad effects on the healthy growth of children, and it is likely to cast a shadow on the children's childhood. So what should we do if a couple is not in harmony?

What to do if the couple is not getting along

Stop complaining

If we only know how to complain about life, and do not know how to respect and love our husband or wife, but keep complaining, it will be difficult to gain the other party's understanding and support. At this time, you must learn to stop complaining and try to make the other person support you instead of resenting you.

Don’t blindly try to change the other person

We are all independent individuals. If you are not satisfied with certain behaviors or practices of the other party, do not try to change the other party. You can sit down and have a good talk with the other party instead of directly using a commanding tone to ask the other party to do what you want. This can easily lead to conflict between the two parties; don't try to change the other person and make him or her become what you want him or her to be, as this is very unrealistic.

Understand that life is a mirror

If you are always picky, harsh, and dissatisfied with your marriage life, it will be difficult to truly gain peace of mind, and even more difficult to enjoy happiness like ordinary people. Remember that life is a mirror, how you treat it is how it treats you. The same applies to your wife or husband. If you want the other person to treat you well, you must treat the other person well first.

Good at reflection and learning

Many philosophies in life need people to be attentive to discover. When we encounter suffering, troubles and setbacks in our marriage, we need to work hard to find solutions. At this time, we must find answers from the root causes of the incident as soon as possible, reflect hard, and learn ways to solve them as soon as possible. I believe that through the efforts of both husband and wife, the future path of marriage will be more stable and better.

Learning to Heal Positively in Marriage

Sometimes we are hurt by our significant other, but the other half does not realize it. In this case, we need to learn to heal ourselves first. If the wound is not treated, it will easily fester and eventually become a cancer in the marriage. Therefore, when we take the initiative to lick our wounds and work hard to save our marriage, our marriage life will have an extra layer of protection.

Always be grateful to your significant other

We should thank those who love us, and we should also thank those who don’t love us. No matter what the other person's attitude towards us is, we must always treat them with gratitude. When we always treat each other with kindness and make sincere contributions, our significant other will always be moved by us, and will eventually give his or her true heart and join hands with us to move towards a better future.