​What can a wife do to make her husband love her more

In life, there are many couples whose relationship has become a little dull because of years of marriage. In fact, the things that cause the separation of feelings between couples are not only related to the personalities of the couple, but also depend on the lack of care between the couple. Sometimes, as a wife, you should be more considerate to your husband, because after all, the whole family is supported by the husband. So, wife, how can your husband love you more?

The four musts are:

1. Be healthy. A person's physical health comes first. Without a healthy body, nothing else can be achieved. No matter how others treat you, you must not mistreat yourself or hurt yourself. Pay attention to your diet and keep exercising. Having a good body is the basis for doing everything else well. You must also be mentally healthy and not blindly compare yourself with others. When you encounter misfortune or troubles in life, change what can be changed, and learn to accept and adapt to the things that cannot be changed. Be calm in the face of things, be content with what you have, be full of optimism, self-confidence, and open-mindedness in your heart. Making yourself strong is your magic weapon to overcome all difficulties.

2. Have a career. After marriage, a woman must have her own career, no matter how big or small. Especially after giving birth, create conditions to go back to work as soon as possible after the breastfeeding period. Don't be a housewife. Otherwise, you will give a lot, and your husband will think it is his due and think you are the same as a nanny. Without a career, the value of your existence cannot be demonstrated, and people will feel that you are just a freeloader, relying on your husband for a living.

3. Have friends. You should have your own circle of friends, and go out and hang out with friends more often in your free time. You shouldn't just revolve around your husband. Regardless of whether you are of the same sex or opposite sex, you must have a confidant, someone who understands you and cares about you. When you are down, she will give you strength and help you stand up again; when you are proud, she will share your happiness and point out the crisis you are facing to prevent you from becoming complacent. Many people who go to extremes simply don’t have a real friend. If they had a real friend who would listen to them and help them untie their knots at the critical moment, their life might have a different ending. If a person does not have a confidant, does not have someone worthy of trust, then you should not complain about others' insincerity, but reflect on yourself.

4. Have a hobby. Having hobbies will enrich your life, make you have friends, and help you effectively divert your attention when you encounter setbacks and failures. Having a positive hobby, such as singing, dancing, yoga, outings, etc., will also bring you confidence and happiness. When you face someone with a higher status and identity than you, you remember that you are better than her in one aspect, and your inferiority complex will naturally subside. A positive hobby can bring you happiness for a long time, increase your body's positive energy, and make you full of confidence and passion.

The four don’ts are:

1. Don’t be willful and nagging. A nagging woman is a nightmare for the whole family. When the tired husband comes home, he starts to complain aimlessly. What he wants to do most at this time is to rush out of the house.

2. Don’t be selfish or mean. If you accept your husband, you must accept his family and love them as well. Respecting his parents is the best emotional investment. Honor your parents. Many women complain that their husbands are too filial to their parents. Just imagine, if a person does not even respect his parents and cannot repay their kindness in raising him, how can he be good to you?

3. Don’t compare everything. Since you have accepted him and chosen him, don't always feel aggrieved and don't compare your husband's "shortcomings" with other people's husband's "strengths". If you compare yourself like this, your husband will look like nothing. Besides, this is not fair. Every family has its own problems. It’s just that you are far away and cannot see other people’s troubles. All you see is the bright side of others.

4. Don’t be too pushy. You need to know how to satisfy your husband's sense of conquest. There is a lot of knowledge involved in the relationship between husband and wife. "Men hope that their wives are sluts in bed and ladies outside of bed, and that they can be good at cooking and entertaining guests in the living room." This is almost true. You need to make him strong, make him confident, let him study you all his life, and make him feel that he is always conquered by you. In this way, your husband will feel that you are a charming woman and he is a real man.

Life will make a gentle woman lose patience and a beautiful woman become sloppy, but your husband often won’t pay for all this. He will think that it is you who has changed, not him. A woman should never regard her husband as her everything, let alone her husband as her private property, otherwise she will lose her husband's love. Many women are always accustomed to showing their not-so-pretty side to their husbands, and often find fault with their husbands with a stern face. After a day's work, men hope to receive gentle care from women instead of criticism when they return home. Don't always say things you don't like to your husband. Be a pragmatist in life. Don't say useless words and don't do useless things.