Should we persist in a marriage maintained by children?

There are many cases of flash marriages in today's society. "Flash marriage" does not only mean getting married quickly but also getting divorced quickly. Many people nowadays will not settle for happiness or unhappiness after marriage like people in the past. Now people's mindset is to not settle. Once one person feels that the marriage is not happy, they will choose to divorce. However, many people will settle for the sake of their children. So, should we persist in a marriage that is maintained because of children?

First, should we continue with a marriage that is maintained because of children? How many marriages today are maintained by the couple's children? In fact, the answer should be "many, many". Because nowadays too many marriages have either become extremely cold or the mutual distrust has reached a point of complete disharmony. But most people use the same reason, which is that they cannot divorce easily for the sake of their children. This may be because most of us are bound by traditional ideas. However, this can also be said that we are all particularly great, and would rather sacrifice our own happiness to find a way to let our children be in a perfect family!

Second, although a perfect family is just an illusion for two adults, it cannot withstand any test of marital affection. But after all, most people believe that when children are young, they will not understand the conflicts and problems of adults. As long as the marriage relationship between the couple is maintained and not broken, the children will also enjoy the perfect love of their parents while growing up in the family. Therefore, many marriages that are already in name only are struggling to maintain such unhappy marriages for the sake of their children! Of course, there are other reasons, and one of the important reasons is that couples use children to maintain their marriage. After all, the couple had feelings for each other before, and there will be some reluctance to give up the marriage life that they have worked so hard to establish. I want to divorce directly but I feel it is unfair to myself. I always feel that the problems we have at the moment can be solved slowly with the help of our children. So I convinced myself to use the child to maintain this relationship and wait for the opportunity to reconcile the marriage!

Should we persist in a marriage maintained by children? In some marriages, both parties have agreed to give up each other and find their own happiness again. But the elders used their children to slowly tame the two people's desire to divorce. Although they did not choose to divorce because of their children, most of the time it was because the elders played the children's emotional card, making divorce more difficult. So they had to give up their own interests and continue living in this unhappy marriage. It's just that it's usually difficult for such a marriage to get back together!