What to do if you have poor self-control

There are some differences between self-control and self-control, but overall it is the lack of the ability to control oneself. Self-control needs to be cultivated from an early age. Nowadays, many families have only one child. If the child is spoiled for a long time, it will easily lead to poor self-control, which is actually very bad for the child. It is necessary to master methods to slowly cultivate the child. So, what should we do if we have poor self-control? Let’s take a look at the method below.

Micro Psychology 1: Self-control is power

There is a scene in the movie "Schindler's List": a drunk Nazi leader falls to the ground. He staggered to his feet and stammered to Schindler, who was sitting on a chair and sipping wine leisurely: "You know what? I'm always watching you and observing you, and you never get drunk. That's excellent self-control!" No matter what, this murderous Nazi devil said one thing: "Self-control is power."

Psychologists point out that perceived self-control, or self-control, has a very important impact on personal behavior and even life. For example, people with higher self-control will use willpower to suppress the urge to give up when faced with difficulties and insist on facing the problems bravely. In this way, they will be more likely to succeed than those with weaker self-control.

Self-control to restrain impulses is also considered a behavioral ability required for success. In life, various misunderstandings can easily occur. If we do not eliminate misunderstandings in a timely manner and instead take extreme actions, conflicts will arise. People with self-control are often able to suppress their impulses and show a more positive attitude in dealing with problems, while people who lack self-control tend to intensify conflicts.

Micro Psychology 2: Self-control is like muscle strength, the more you practice, the stronger it gets.

After a conflict, we often criticize the aggressive people for their brutality and aggressive behavior, blaming them for not controlling themselves. But psychologists have found that it’s not that aggressive people don’t want to control themselves, they’re just not good at controlling themselves. The study found that when there is a conflict, such as when someone insults an aggressive person, using a brain scanner to look at the brain activity of the aggressive person when being insulted, it was found that the part involved in self-control was actually more active than that of less aggressive people. It can be seen that aggressive people actually want to control themselves.

Baumeister and Exlin theorized that self-control is similar to muscle strength: Both become weaker with constant use but can be replenished with rest and strengthened with practice. Thomas Denson of the University of New South Wales said that by practicing using your non-dominant hand to use a mouse, stir coffee, open a door, etc., you can practice self-control, which can effectively limit people's aggression. Another of his experiments also confirmed that people who practiced self-control responded to insults with less aggression.

So, if your self-control ability is weak, you might as well try practicing it, because "practicing self-control is no different than playing golf or practicing the piano."

Micro-psychology 3: No longer lazy and unwilling to work

People tend to be lazy and hate work because laziness is human instinct. However, laziness can be harmful in many cases, for example, when faced with difficulties, people tend to avoid them. Laziness can also lead to personal procrastination, negative attitude, and even affect the development of one's entire life. Therefore, we need to maintain strong willpower and overcome laziness. The strong will of Helen Keller, a famous American blind, deaf and mute female writer, has inspired generations of people and brought endless inspiration to the world.

Helen Keller lost her sight and hearing due to scarlet fever when she was only 19 months old, and soon after, she also lost the ability to speak. Although she can only live without sight, hearing or speech, she tries to learn Braille and communicate with the outside world with her tenacious perseverance.

In 1898, Helen Keller was admitted to the Cambridge School for Girls affiliated with Harvard University. In the fall of 1900, she was admitted to Radcliffe College of Harvard University. In 1904, she again received a Bachelor of Arts degree from Harvard University with excellent results.

Like Helen Keller, through strong willpower, we can overcome laziness and achieve more success.