Behaviors of people with a bad mentality

There is an ancient story that says that Mr. Zhang's axe was broken, so he thought of borrowing one from his neighbor Mr. Li. But as he walked to the door, he thought that Mr. Li would definitely not lend it to him. He was sure that Mr. Li was very stingy and might even ridicule him. He would not be able to borrow an axe and would be scolded. Thinking of this, he became very angry and ran to the neighbor's house and yelled, "You are such a bad person, just let your axe rot in your house!" Mr. Li was puzzled. He had heard that Mr. Zhang's axe was broken and was about to return it to Mr. Zhang.

In this story, Lao Zhang may be the so-called person with a bad mentality. He made fictitious guesses about others, that is, Lao Li, and thought that Lao Li would definitely not lend him money and would even belittle himself. His wrong cognition led to his emotional behavior.

Although this is a fable, there are many such things in life. Many people's subjective and arbitrary cognition does not match the reality of the outside world, but they are unable to realize it. With distorted cognition, they either vent their anger on others, attacking others like Lao Zhang, or turn their anger on themselves, attacking themselves and making themselves depressed.

In cognitive behavioral therapy in psychology, many common bad cognitions are summarized, including generalizing, black and white, negative thinking, etc.

In the above story, Mr. Zhang is the one with negative thinking. People with this kind of bad cognition will lack objectivity and comprehensive thinking and analysis of people and things. Their minds are filled with all kinds of negative suggestions, and they feel negative and pessimistic about themselves. For example, "I am unwelcome", "No one will truly like me", "I don't deserve to be treated well", etc. At the same time, they will deny any evidence or ideas that contradict these negative thoughts, thinking "that's not true."

A bad mentality usually manifests itself in a negative and pessimistic state. People with a bad mentality have no interest in doing anything, have poor work efficiency, and can easily influence the people around them.

Such people tend to go to extremes easily when they encounter some setbacks or something bad happens, and they like to back down from everything they do. It is easy to give up halfway through doing things, and it is difficult to concentrate all your energy on doing things. Three minutes of enthusiasm. It is easy to give up on yourself and blame others.

Everyone will have troubles in their life. It is impossible to be wonderful every moment. Troubles follow us like a shadow. It is impossible for us to stop moving forward just because we encounter a little problem. In fact, people with a bad mentality think too much. In fact, we must learn to be content.

People with a bad mentality see everything as bad. It seems that I have seen a saying that a bad mentality is actually a sign of "mental retardation".

A philosopher once said: "Your mentality is your master." In real life, we cannot control our own experiences, but we can control our own mentality; we cannot change others, but we can change ourselves. In fact, there is not much difference between people. The real difference lies in their mentality. Therefore, whether a person is successful or not mainly depends on his mentality.

Take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously. No matter what your life is like, I believe it is wonderful. Come on!